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CHILDREN AND VALIDATION

Posted on June 23, 2016 at 4:24 PM Comments comments (104)
             I wanted to share with you something I learned many years ago which has proven to be invaluable regarding children.

          This is a story about children of the Blackfoot Indian tribe. it is a practice that is done by all the members of the tribe when speaking with children.

          The story goes something like this: A child would go down to the brook and was really intending to take this little bag of something down there and throw it into the water. (Not so good). Somebody along the way would say to him, "Oh, you're going to get some water, what a good child," or "You are helping your mother, what a good child."  Now when they were bad children, they ignored them. The reason for the short story is to demonstrate how important it is to acknowledge or validate a child. The Blackfeet children were very obedient and very cheerful. The theory was that if you acknowledged the good stuff, the children would be happier and very helpful. Less and less bad stuff, would happen, because the children ultimately wanted their parents and friends to trust them and consider them good children.

         We forget sometimes to let our children know when they do good things, or are helpful. I am a wealthy woman, in that I have 3 beautiful granddaughters, and 2 beautiful daughters. I try to center on doing this with all of them. My grandchildren love to help and I always thank them for that. Center on the good things they do, gently handle the other stuff.

         If by chance your sweetheart is having trouble with something, have a conversation. Acknowledge their thoughts and worries. Of course center on the positive. They need lots of love and understanding!

With Love,
Patt Condiotti
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WANT A FUN WAY TO STRENGTHEN YOUR CHILD'S ATTENTION?

Posted on June 22, 2016 at 7:55 PM Comments comments (33)
               Ever start working with your sweetheart on his or her work and they do great for awhile, but then their attention seems to start drifting?
What to do? What to do? There is a simple drill that you can do with them to refocus their attention.

              Sit across from your child and explain to them that you are going to pay a fun game. It is a simple, creative game. Ready?
Mom or dad, please say a word or short phase to your child. Now, your child needs to repeat it back to you, exactly. Good, done. Next, your child needs to say a word or short phrase to you. You need to repeat that phrase ,exactly. Good. Now, mom or dad again, say a short sentence to your child. Have them repeat it, exactly. Keep doing this, taking turns.
Watch your child's face! Soon they will brighten up, smile, become happier and you can tell by their responses that they are fully paying attention. At a really good point, ask them about the game, did they like it? Let them tell you how they felt about it. After they get to talk to you, let them know how great they did. Now, they can return to study, centered and focused.
               
               Give it a try! Have some fun!

With Love,
Patt Condiotti
Pattschats
mrspattstutoring.net

Multiple vaccinations - Are they safe?

Posted on June 16, 2016 at 5:03 PM Comments comments (67)
               There is a lot of chatter happening regarding vaccinations these days, and especially the multiple doses and different kinds that are being given at the same time.

               There are 8 vaccines which are to be administered at 2 months, 4 months and 6 months. That would be 24 in all. These 8 vaccines all given together, have never been tested for any possible
complications. Recent statistics show that children given these multiple doses, more likely will have trouble and possibly need hospitalization.
This information will be published in the Summer issue of Journal of American Physicians and Surgeons.

              All of these required vaccinations are listed in the bill SB 277, the law that will take effect July 1, 2106. There is also a clause stating that if the governing bodies deems that new and different vaccines are needed to be added to the list, that these also should be complied with.

            Please read this law for yourself. Whether or not you agree with the vaccinations or not, is not the important matter here. For the safety and well being of our children, this author's opinion is, that these vaccinations should be spread out, letting the body handle them separately and more easily. After all, these are babies who are adjusting to  a new world. Let's give them the best chance possible for good health and good lives.

With Love,
Patt Condiotti
Pattschats
mrspattstutoring.net







SUMMER AND LEARNING ALTERNATIVES!

Posted on June 15, 2016 at 3:06 PM Comments comments (7)
                Summer, a time to relax and have the family enjoy some time together. But, summer is long sometimes, and children need some structure for their days. Maybe a little bit of review work 5 days a week would help! Maybe your sweetheart needs some extra math help from the ending year. Maybe your beloved child needs some extra reading help over the summer. Comprehension a problem? ( Did you know there is a very simple solution to comprehension problems?) I have talked about it in my earlier Blogs.

             Simple solution! Go to Barnes and Noble, go on line to Amazon and search for workbooks by Spectrum. They are great workbooks. Have your child do 30 minutes a day, or so, and make sure their work is correct. If you are one of those parents who have trouble with some of the NEW MATH, and there are many, get a local tutor to help once every two weeks. If your child gets stuck on something, the tutor can help them out and put them back on their way. Very affordable, but very helpful.
I have this program in my tutoring company. That way, the student can get help if needed, and can expand his learning all summer with ease.
Spectrum has reading, math, writing and other great books. Be sure and reward your child if they met the schedule you have asked of them. A trip to the dollar store or Target would be great! I use charts in my business as of way of letting the children know when they will receive their next prize.

          Well, food for thought! I can be reached by email, or phone, for any questions you may have. Remember, lots of helpful information in MY BLOGS.

With Love,
Patt Condiotti
Pattschats
mrspattstutoring.net




HELPFUL HINTS ON HOMESCHOOLING!

Posted on June 13, 2016 at 1:19 PM Comments comments (9)
          Are you overwhelmed with the idea of homeschooling?

         Does it all seem too much to handle, but you know that it can be one of the very best educations you can give your sweetheart?

         Hopefully these few things will help simplify your journey.

1. If you are signing up for a city program for your child, sometimes the information that they are supposed to learn doesn't come with much help regarding how to learn it. I work with a 5th grade homeschooler in math, and the materials, to say the least, are lacking. Solution - Go to Barnes and Noble, or a bookstore and look for a good, well explained book on the subject. I use many math books from SPECTRUM BOOKS. They have examples on how to do things and are much easier to teach. They include most of the curriculum that is included in the city programs.

2. I learned this next trick from a very experienced homeschooler. Use spiral notebooks. This way you can keep track of all the work that you do and can write daily lessons in them for your children. They go on sale in July and August and can be 15 to 20 cents apiece. Keep them in a specific place so that you won't spend time searching for them.

3. Write your own schedule. You can start your day whenever you want. Include cooking breakfast, lunch or dinner in your lessons. Cleanup is also a great lesson. I work with a homeschooler in math for 4 hours a week and we get a lot of work done.

4. Research coop groups. There are many. That way your children are able to interact with many children and learning can be super fun.

5. Use tutors for the subjects that you don't feel okay about teaching. I personally  will teach homeschoolers in small groups, which is helpful for the family budget! Please email me with questions if wanted.

6. Picking a homeschool program. Decide how traditional you want to go.
Also decide how much you want to be responsible for regarding turning in lessons and taking required tests. There are very traditional, free programs through each city, and there are more open programs, less testing and more freedoms. Check them both out and see what you like.

7. Working parents, homeschooling can be accomplished. Get creative. Organize small groups, get a tutor to help you out. If you are one of the parents looking at homeschooling due to the new law on required vaccinations, which by the way goes into effect July 1. 2016, I'm sure there are other like minded friends who would want to set up small groups with you. (Again, email me if you have questions).

     Have fun with learning. Teach your sweethearts all about life and education.

With Love,
Patt Condiotti
mrspattstutoring.net


















        


HOMESCHOOLING - KEEP IT SIMPLE!

Posted on May 30, 2016 at 5:58 PM Comments comments (26)
               Homeschooling definitely can be a great adventure. It can seem very unsurmountable. It doesn't have to be though.
                   
                     COMMON MISCONCEPTIONS:

1. I have to have a full day of study, like public school.
    False  Most programs can be delivered in 2 to 3 hours a day.

2. I have to have a set schedule for my homeschooling.
    False   You can set up a schedule for most days, but you can always change things around to accommodate field trips, family events.

3. My child will not be taught how to interact with others, if they are homeschooled.
   False  These days there are a multitude of homeschool groups and arranged field trips. Sports activities are great. Manners lessons and how to treat people lessons can be super fun! I used to do it in my classrooms. I taught my students how to seat teachers for a meal and how to also serve them. How fun, have your kids do that for mom and dad.

4. Friends at school - It is necessary for all children to have friends, but maybe not at a traditional school.
    True With friends at school may come peer pressure. Peer pressure can bring disrespect of teachers, parents, and each other. Bad language can show up also. Unfortunately I hear stories of disrespect coming from teachers when speaking to the students also. Very upsetting.

5. I can't homeschool, I don't know how, or I am not smart enough to do that. 
  FALSE  Homeschooling can be simplified to make it easy and fun for both mom or dad and their children. If that is not an option, choose to set up a group to help each other, or if a particular subject is too hard to confront, get a part time tutor to help.  The amount of tension in school today for our students is very overwhelming. Wouldn't it be nice to control the pace and make sure your sweetheart understands his or her studies?

    These are but a few of the falsehoods that burden moms and dads. 
     Please feel free to email, call or text me with questions.

With Love,
Patt Condiotti
mrspattstutoring.net


   

HOW CAN I HELP MY CHILD TO PREPARE FOR THE NEXT SCHOOL YEAR?

Posted on May 28, 2016 at 11:29 AM Comments comments (18)
                 Whew, another year of school is almost finished. I think this year has been challenging for many students. We are still adjusting to all the changes in the curriculum.

              As a tutor, I have noticed that many students are working hard to keep up with the fast paced lessons. Many of my students come to me for that extra help and clarity of their work. For the most part, each earlier lesson builds on the next concept, so if the first one is not grasped, the next one will be a total blank.

            My advice to all you great parents, is to take to heart any notes or comments that come from the teacher's last report card. Also, ask him or her if there are any weak areas in math or reading or comprehension, or language arts. If you can target those areas, then you can either find good workbooks or possibly a tutor that can help fill in the blanks for your sweethearts. That way, they will start the new year with confidence and clarity.

            I highly recommend keeping your child's hand in during the summer with a possible 30 minute a day program. Depending on their grade level, it can be multiplication, division, fractions etc. Make it a game! Use a chart, so they can mark off their accomplishments! Reward them for sticking to their program. 

           If you have small ones, here's a game I used to use on my pre-kinder students to learn their numbers and ABC's. Get a small ball, soft of course, and throw it back and forth reciting the letters and numbers in turn. Then switch, so that your youngster can say the opposite ones. It is very fun and works great!  Also for learning adding and subtracting, use chalk, write big, use many colors to make it fun!  Start with easy ones and then progress. In my tutoring, I have many students learning their multiplication. We have two playing at once, (well matched), and they get points for right answers. Prizes can be gum, a pencil, an eraser, anything to keep it a game. Learning is done with smiles on their faces!!!

           I am here to answer any questions you might have. Please feel free to email me, call me or text me.

Patt Condiott
Pattschats
mrspattstutoring.net











Today's Schooling Dilema!

Posted on May 22, 2016 at 12:24 PM Comments comments (196)
               Today, as parents, we are faced with many challenges in  helping our children be truly educated. Our public school system has a heavy load to bear with very little help in each classroom. My hat goes off to all our teachers for the great jobs that they do!  I have been a teacher in a classroom, and know the feeling of wanting to help everyone succeed, and feeling that there just wasn't enough time to do all that I wanted to do to help my students. I have been a tutor for almost 10 years now, and I interact with many teachers and see how hard they work to assist their pupils in anyway they can.

            Parents today, are stepping in and stepping up and helping more than ever. Again this summer, we are faced with yet another problem of vaccinations, and how we feel about being told we have to raise our children in a certain way and what is good for them. Of course, how we handle that is an individual decision. For some, that means that they might need to do homeschooling. For others, they need to stay vigilant with their child's education and health in whatever school they choose to have their child attend. Either way, our goal is the same, educated, happy, healthy, competent children.

          I personally have grown daughters, but have 3 gorgeous, amazing granddaughters who I want to help protect fiercely. I am a big believer in holistic medicine, healthy eating, and lots of love. I have been blessed with a great amount of compassion and patience for children, and it has served me well through the years. Children respond to respect, love,
and light handed guidance. Children respond to games, challenges and validation. Children need a light hand and a gentle heart. Parenting is an enormous job, but the best one in the world. Here's to all you great parents out there! Stay alert, keep helping, stay strong, we all need to work together!

        I am happy to answer any questions you might have regarding education and helping your child do well. Please feel free to email me.

With Love,
Patt Condiotti
Pattschats
mrspattstutoring.net



         





HOW CAN I HELP MY CHILD WHO IS FALLING BEHIND IN SCHOOL?

Posted on May 14, 2016 at 1:51 PM Comments comments (9)
         As parents we are always trying to help our children do the best they can do in life and in school. Sometimes it seems like a hard, uphill battle.
  
         Common scenario - Your sweetheart is doing their homework and starts to fidget, complain, say it is too hard, throw a book or two. You walk over and try to help. You may be a bit upset with your child and can't quite understand why they would act this way, right? Of course, you hold your patience and ask them what is wrong? They tell you that they hate math or reading and possibly they feel dumb, or sadly sometimes even cry. Heartbreaking!

         What can be done to help? Basics first. Did your child eat well today, did he or she have a good snack before homework time? Is it late and did he or she have a hard day? Most important, chat with your child.
Let them tell you if they had a hard day, did they get hurt that day, was the teacher grumpy that day, do they feel okay? In short, just let them talk to you for a bit, so that they feel that you are listening to their upsets.
After that, when everyone feels better, talk about the homework.

         Let's take math for example - A typical third grader is learning his multiplying and some division. For some, these principals are very overwhelming. Do a quick check on what parts of multiplying your sweetheart feels good about, and then work on one number at a time.
Study them in order, then out of order, do some flash cards maybe. Make it a game with a small reward at the completion of each number not known. Target $1 bin and the dollar store is a great place for prizes. 
Center on successes! Reinstate their feeling of being able to win and learn! This will go a long way to reestablish their self confidence!
        Children learn at different paces! We are individuals! Conquer small things at a time. If all the subjects are in jeopardy, do each a bit at a time, do not get overwhelmed!

           I am happy to answer questions or concerns. Feel free to email me or text me.

With Love,
Patt Condiotti
Pattschats
mrspattstutoring.net




                 

IS IT REALLY ATTENTION PROBLEMS?

Posted on May 8, 2016 at 11:14 AM Comments comments (10)
          
             
              I wanted to tell a short story today about a fairly new student I have. He came to me, 4th grader, with mom worrying about being told that he had attention problems, and maybe that he needed to see someone to help with that. I always do a free consultation, so I talked with mom and the student and got him set up to come and see me twice a week. I wanted to work with him myself to see exactly what was going on with this sweet child.

          His first day he came, and started working right away. I helped him through his math and it was very apparent to me that one thing that he needed was help understanding the math terms in the problems he was working on. It is hard to do a math problem when you don't understand the question. We went over the names of angles, and shapes, and reviewed some clock problems, and before you know it, the hour was over. We had worked through the whole hour, and surprise, surprise, no attention problems. He was right with me the whole hour. Even better, he was happy and smiling at the end of the hour, and didn't want to leave.
That has continued and each time he comes, he learns more and more and gets less and less confused.

         His mom, of course, asked me what I thought about his "problem", and I told her that I did not see that problem. Yes, he needed help, but only to help him clear up and understand his schoolwork. She was relieved, of course. Unfortunately, this happens with my students a great deal of the time. Confusion, not understanding, and feeling overwhelmed creates things that look like attention problems. Too much, too fast, for example, in math, can devastate a child. Symptoms of this can be bad behavior, dullness, won't do their homework, and even sickness. Stomach aches, headaches, and generally not feeling well can occur because of feeling lost in a subject. Not wanting to go to school, is a big one!

        Remedies, let's see!  If your child is drowning in a subject, talk with him. Ask him or her when he felt good about the subject! When was math okay! You may be surprised at the answer! I asked a little boy that question who was in 3rd grade, regarding his reading, and he told me the last time he liked reading was in kindergarten!  That will be your start point. Go back and see where your sweetheart went off the rails. Slowly check what he has learned from that point forward. Watch his or her face! You will get your answers from there also! When you a get a happy, relaxed little face and demeanor, you have hit the jackpot! It may take some time to accomplish this, but it is so worth it!  One of the most beautiful sites there is, is a child who has that glow of understanding and feels so good about themselves.

          As always, I am here for questions and concerns. Below is my contact information. I would love to hear from you.

With Love,
Patt Condiotti
Pattschats
mrspattstutoring.net





            


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