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CHILDREN - How to handle an accident!

Posted on July 1, 2019 at 8:04 PM Comments comments (51)
.                The following is a true story. 

           I run a tutoring business and always have students in and out of my office area. I provide snacks and water to all of my students.
One of my boy students asked for water. Of course I said it was fine to get it. Somehow it spilled on the carpet. My first thought was to just grab a paper towel and dry the carpet, no big deal! When I looked up at my student's face, it was filled with terror! He was so scared! I was very
surprised. I quickly assured him that it was not a problem, that it was only water. We could use a paper towel and easily dry it up. Eventually he calmed down and resumed our tutoring.

          Needless to say, I was very taken aback at the response of
the child. I can only imagine that in his environment, if accidents happen,
he is either scolded intensely, or punished. So sad. Unfortunately, the more discipline and yelling and fear a child receives when there is an
accident, leaves fear there, instead of understanding. You know the old saying, "When you don't want something to happen, like an accident, that's what happens." To be so scared that something might happen, sets the stage for disaster.


        Fear is never the right way to handle anything. Let's help them feel safe and confident and loved.

        I would love to hear from any of you out there. I am happy to answer any questions or hear any opinions. I can be reached at the email address and number below.

With Love,
Patt Condiotti
mrspattstutoring.net

CHILDREN AND VALIDATION

Posted on June 23, 2016 at 4:24 PM Comments comments (105)
             I wanted to share with you something I learned many years ago which has proven to be invaluable regarding children.

          This is a story about children of the Blackfoot Indian tribe. it is a practice that is done by all the members of the tribe when speaking with children.

          The story goes something like this: A child would go down to the brook and was really intending to take this little bag of something down there and throw it into the water. (Not so good). Somebody along the way would say to him, "Oh, you're going to get some water, what a good child," or "You are helping your mother, what a good child."  Now when they were bad children, they ignored them. The reason for the short story is to demonstrate how important it is to acknowledge or validate a child. The Blackfeet children were very obedient and very cheerful. The theory was that if you acknowledged the good stuff, the children would be happier and very helpful. Less and less bad stuff, would happen, because the children ultimately wanted their parents and friends to trust them and consider them good children.

         We forget sometimes to let our children know when they do good things, or are helpful. I am a wealthy woman, in that I have 3 beautiful granddaughters, and 2 beautiful daughters. I try to center on doing this with all of them. My grandchildren love to help and I always thank them for that. Center on the good things they do, gently handle the other stuff.

         If by chance your sweetheart is having trouble with something, have a conversation. Acknowledge their thoughts and worries. Of course center on the positive. They need lots of love and understanding!

With Love,
Patt Condiotti
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Boardman Oregon - Please Tell Me About Your Great Town and Your Wonderful Students?

Posted on September 25, 2015 at 6:23 PM Comments comments (12)
         This is Patt Condiotti, Pattschats! I want to thank you all for reading my BLOGS!!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you! I have been fortunate enough to have over 1000 people read them just from your town! Amazing!!!!
          I would LOVE to know more about your lovely city and your students. As you know, I live in Tustin, Ca. and have never had the pleasure of going to Oregon. I would love it if one or two of you would email me and let me know more about you all.
        My intention with MY BLOGS is to help! Please help me to help you! Email me some of your concerns or complaints or your questions on education, or study hints, or homeschooling or anything, please! It would really help me out if you would let me know what you want to know!
        If you email me, I''ll tell you what? I will send you my BLOG on "What Three Things the School System Doesn't Want You to Know"  FREE. This is a 900 word writing that I was saving for another time, but I REALLY WANT to hear from you!
          By the way, I have a few other cities that have honored me with reading and following my blogs! I WOULD LOVE to hear from you also! Same offer, FREE article on the School System. I am going to set up a Closed Group for you Pattschats Bloggers out there. That way we can easily communicate on Facebook!
        I am anxiously awaiting the birth of my 3rd granddaughter,
due any day now and I am going a little crazy over here. It would be awesome to get an email from one of you!
       Just know, I'll keep writing! I love to spread good ideas and tips to help our students. Hope to chat soon!

With Love,
Patt Condiotti
Pattschats
mrspattstutoring.net




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